How I've stayed well over the last year and a half...
1. A few months before my divorce last year, I declared:
I want to be well. I want to be healthy. I want to be vibrant and high-energy. I want to be abundant. I want to be light. I want to be fully self-expressed.
I write some version of this declaration most days. This is the way I pray and affirm all at the same time.
2. I stay tuned in to my body. When I need to rest, I rest. When I need some additional self-care, I stop whatever I am doing, and tend to myself. Without fail.
I'm always listening, feeling into, and paying attention to my body. I know in my heart that there is "nothing better than feeling good" and I work diligently to feel good.
3. I've learned to be as resilient as fuck about what I want. I don't give up. I'm always seeking clarity and the light.
4. I journal my feelings regularly. Sometimes, I record myself speaking them (audio journal). Sometimes, I write them. But I give myself ample time to get clear about my feelings. Why do I feel this way? What can I do to feel good?
5. I am the center of my world. I know my only job is to take care of myself. It is from this place that I can be helpful and supportive to others. I call this honoring my divinity or god-likeness.
6. I remove energy drains from my life as soon as possible.
7. I learned how to deal with boundary bullies.
8. I don't do anything out of guilt or obligation or to solely please someone else. If it doesn't feel right, I don't do it. I spent every major holiday alone last year because I was preparing for my book launches. I stayed deeply aware of my own energetic needs and I did not let outside influences keep me from meeting those needs.
(Oh, and I still partied like it was 1999... but I did so on my own terms, which these days is usually a gourmet homecooked meal, a bottle of my favorite wine, and music.)
9. I know my intentions. Why am I doing what I'm doing? Is this ego-driven or light?
10. I stopped being mean to myself in my mind.
No judgement. No harsh self-criticism. No comparing myself to other people. No perfectionism. Mistakes and disappointments are opportunities to learn and I commit to doing 10 percent better the next time.
11. I eat and drink intuitively. Again, I am always asking my body what it needs (or does not need) and I do my best to meet it's needs. (Note: I do my best. I'm still a plus-sized gal, please don't send me anymore weight loss videos.)
12. I do what is pleasurable and when something stops being pleasurable, I disengage. Sometimes, I come back to it. Sometimes, I don't. I don't get attached to any one source of pleasure.
13. I mastered my anxiety. This does not mean I don't feel anxious from time to time, but I did invest in psychotherapy to learn how my mind works. At one point, I had two sessions a week with two different therapists. Now, I do a session once every 3 months.
I know my intuition is always running through my human mind and the better I know how my it works, the more I will understand the true messages of my body and Spirit.
14. I keep an energetically clean home: I declutter regularly. I energetically clear my space with sage, water, and salt.
People walk into my space and say: "wow, it's so peaceful in here." I work at, value, and protect this peace.
15. I practice forgiveness and do releasing work regularly. I hate being in pain, so I don't hold on to it. Sure, I get annoyed and blue from time to time. I let myself feel it completely, and then I release it.
16. I don't let complaining become a habit. Complaining is awesome when it helps me get clear about what I want, but when I'm just bitching it feels bad in my body. I stay aware of this shift in energy.
17. I stay in gratitude and reverence for my entire life... down to the tiniest expression of creation.
18. I love where I want to live. (I even thank my building and my city in the back of my books. 'Cause home is work. And work is home. I love it that way.)
19. I'm a double entrepreneur (I have two self-run businesses), so I know stress is apart of my day-to-day experience, but I do not let the ups and downs distort my perception of myself. I spend a lot of time affirming my value and worth. I honor all my efforts.
20. I act quickly. If I get an intuitive idea, I don't drag my feet. I drop everything and do it.
21. I've stopped making plans. I stay aware of what I need to do (lots of lists) and I let my intuition guide me as to what actions to take moment by moment.
22. I released others from all expectations. This means, I let the people in my life do what they are going to do. I don't hold the people I love to any obligations.
Now this does not mean I don't get bummed out if someone says they are going to do something and they don't do it. I do. Totally.
But since I don't like to feel "bummed out," I let those people go quickly or I choose to accept them as they are.
I do my best to avoid drama and chaos in my relationships. I definitely speak up and express my truth, but there is no benefit to ongoing conflict and drama.
23. I show up present. If I can't be mentally, emotionally, and energetically present, I stay home.
If I'm busy with work... I'm not trying to hang out with friends or go on a date.
If I'm at dinner, I'm not lamenting about how stressed out I am.
Because... A.) It's disrespectful to whomever I'm with.
B.) It's an excuse to not take full responsibility for my energy.
I'll get on my soapbox: SHOW UP PRESENT or stay home (or don't make the call, etc...).
24. I have the deepest faith and belief in my vision for my life... which is to be peaceful, free, loved, abundant, fully self-expressed, and above all, well.
Intuitive Coaching can help you stay well, too:
Purchase the 3-month Intuitive Coaching Package here.
(Yes, it's totally worth the investment.)
xoxo,
Amy
1. A few months before my divorce last year, I declared:
I want to be well. I want to be healthy. I want to be vibrant and high-energy. I want to be abundant. I want to be light. I want to be fully self-expressed.
I write some version of this declaration most days. This is the way I pray and affirm all at the same time.
2. I stay tuned in to my body. When I need to rest, I rest. When I need some additional self-care, I stop whatever I am doing, and tend to myself. Without fail.
I'm always listening, feeling into, and paying attention to my body. I know in my heart that there is "nothing better than feeling good" and I work diligently to feel good.
3. I've learned to be as resilient as fuck about what I want. I don't give up. I'm always seeking clarity and the light.
4. I journal my feelings regularly. Sometimes, I record myself speaking them (audio journal). Sometimes, I write them. But I give myself ample time to get clear about my feelings. Why do I feel this way? What can I do to feel good?
5. I am the center of my world. I know my only job is to take care of myself. It is from this place that I can be helpful and supportive to others. I call this honoring my divinity or god-likeness.
6. I remove energy drains from my life as soon as possible.
7. I learned how to deal with boundary bullies.
8. I don't do anything out of guilt or obligation or to solely please someone else. If it doesn't feel right, I don't do it. I spent every major holiday alone last year because I was preparing for my book launches. I stayed deeply aware of my own energetic needs and I did not let outside influences keep me from meeting those needs.
(Oh, and I still partied like it was 1999... but I did so on my own terms, which these days is usually a gourmet homecooked meal, a bottle of my favorite wine, and music.)
9. I know my intentions. Why am I doing what I'm doing? Is this ego-driven or light?
10. I stopped being mean to myself in my mind.
No judgement. No harsh self-criticism. No comparing myself to other people. No perfectionism. Mistakes and disappointments are opportunities to learn and I commit to doing 10 percent better the next time.
11. I eat and drink intuitively. Again, I am always asking my body what it needs (or does not need) and I do my best to meet it's needs. (Note: I do my best. I'm still a plus-sized gal, please don't send me anymore weight loss videos.)
12. I do what is pleasurable and when something stops being pleasurable, I disengage. Sometimes, I come back to it. Sometimes, I don't. I don't get attached to any one source of pleasure.
13. I mastered my anxiety. This does not mean I don't feel anxious from time to time, but I did invest in psychotherapy to learn how my mind works. At one point, I had two sessions a week with two different therapists. Now, I do a session once every 3 months.
I know my intuition is always running through my human mind and the better I know how my it works, the more I will understand the true messages of my body and Spirit.
14. I keep an energetically clean home: I declutter regularly. I energetically clear my space with sage, water, and salt.
People walk into my space and say: "wow, it's so peaceful in here." I work at, value, and protect this peace.
15. I practice forgiveness and do releasing work regularly. I hate being in pain, so I don't hold on to it. Sure, I get annoyed and blue from time to time. I let myself feel it completely, and then I release it.
16. I don't let complaining become a habit. Complaining is awesome when it helps me get clear about what I want, but when I'm just bitching it feels bad in my body. I stay aware of this shift in energy.
17. I stay in gratitude and reverence for my entire life... down to the tiniest expression of creation.
18. I love where I want to live. (I even thank my building and my city in the back of my books. 'Cause home is work. And work is home. I love it that way.)
19. I'm a double entrepreneur (I have two self-run businesses), so I know stress is apart of my day-to-day experience, but I do not let the ups and downs distort my perception of myself. I spend a lot of time affirming my value and worth. I honor all my efforts.
20. I act quickly. If I get an intuitive idea, I don't drag my feet. I drop everything and do it.
21. I've stopped making plans. I stay aware of what I need to do (lots of lists) and I let my intuition guide me as to what actions to take moment by moment.
22. I released others from all expectations. This means, I let the people in my life do what they are going to do. I don't hold the people I love to any obligations.
Now this does not mean I don't get bummed out if someone says they are going to do something and they don't do it. I do. Totally.
But since I don't like to feel "bummed out," I let those people go quickly or I choose to accept them as they are.
I do my best to avoid drama and chaos in my relationships. I definitely speak up and express my truth, but there is no benefit to ongoing conflict and drama.
23. I show up present. If I can't be mentally, emotionally, and energetically present, I stay home.
If I'm busy with work... I'm not trying to hang out with friends or go on a date.
If I'm at dinner, I'm not lamenting about how stressed out I am.
Because... A.) It's disrespectful to whomever I'm with.
B.) It's an excuse to not take full responsibility for my energy.
I'll get on my soapbox: SHOW UP PRESENT or stay home (or don't make the call, etc...).
24. I have the deepest faith and belief in my vision for my life... which is to be peaceful, free, loved, abundant, fully self-expressed, and above all, well.
Intuitive Coaching can help you stay well, too:
Purchase the 3-month Intuitive Coaching Package here.
(Yes, it's totally worth the investment.)
xoxo,
Amy
