Now you’re probably wondering, then why is there so much conflict in my relationship with men? First, we sometimes don’t realize what really makes us happy. Secondly, we often communicate everything to our partner EXCEPT for the exact thing that will make us happy. Third, and this a big one, we don’t always allow the men in our life to make us happy and in turn, fail to appreciate their gifts! (If you’re a manifestor, you’ve probably already figured out this formula is the basics of the law attraction.)
So are you ready to let men make you happy? Here are some action steps to get you started:
1. Identify what makes you happy. For example, “It really makes me happy when the house is clean and when my partner puts his clothes away, it increases the cleanliness of our space.”
2. Express what makes you happy to the men around you. Be very specific and to the point. Avoid muddling your request with unnecessary details. While these extra tidbits are great in your discussion with women, it will only distract your man from understanding what you want. Men are always listening for the main point, so give it him. Respectfully. Lovingly. And most importantly at the right time.
3. Allow the men in your life to make you happy AND tell him you appreciate his efforts. Sounds easy enough, right? Yeah, but it’s the little nagging that gets us in trouble. An example of this: Your brother picks a really awesome place for brunch, but instead of thanking him for his
efforts and leaving it at that, you mention that your coworker said the service was sub par. Your intention was not meant to be unappreciative, but it will probably be really hard to get your brother to pick a restaurant again.
4. Another part of allowing, and this is the juicy tip, once you expressed what makes you happy, let men act on your request in their own way. Lets take the example of putting the clothes away- your partner wants to make you happy, so he starts putting his clothes in a pile on the floor of the closet instead of leaving them all over your bedroom. Of course you’d rather he use the hamper, but instead of nagging him to do it your way, just appreciate his efforts to make you happy in the way that feels comfortable to him.