partner. I recommend one date with yourself a week. It doesn’t need to be expensive or extravagant, but it should reflect your personal interests and be done with sincere intention. This exercise will allow you to connect with your inner self and heal any intimacy wounds that may be blocking you from attracting lasting, healthy love. When you learn to enjoy your own company, you will attract others who will enjoy being with you as well. I know it may seem a little woo
woo, but this little technique will truly make you a magnet for love.
Before I met my partner, I spent four months dating myself. Here’s my story:
I love college football (especially USC), so every Saturday I would chill out in my sweats, order a pizza and watch as many games as possible. When I decided I was ready for real lasting love, I
turned my Saturdays into “date nights” with myself. Instead of lounging all day, I would act like I was hosting a real dinner date and the USC game was the main event. I planned an outfit (jeans and a USC shirt), set the table with matching place setting and candles and cooked a delicious meal. I timed everything perfectly, so that everything was ready for kick-off. It was wonderful!
By dating myself, I truly learned to enjoy and value my own company. I was also able to let go of my neediness. I no longer needed another person to make me feel good. I discovered that my life would be fulfilling even if I never met my soul mate.
Learning this lesson made me a magnet for love. Three weeks after USC beat Penn State in the Rose Bowl, I met my partner.
Date Yourself Guidelines
1. Pick a day and time each week for your date. With the exception of illness, do not reschedule it.
2. Plan an activity that will mimic a real date. Choose activities you will really enjoy.
3. Physically and mentally prepare for the date so you can be fully present and feel good.
4. Do not share your date time with anyone else. No friends. No phone calls. No text. (Just like a real date.)
5. Most importantly, treat yourself the way you want your future partner to treat you.
6. Even once you start a relationship, plan at least one self date a month. This will keep you grounded and emotionally calm during the early stages of the relationship.