I mean really.
And I typically go for whatever I want.
Here's the thing... sometimes when you're "going for it" you can start to unconsciously self-sabotage your best efforts because you are so attached to the outcome.
In other words, you block or slow down your blessings because you start acting outside the boundaries of your integrity.
You start accepting shit you don't want. You compromise. You start saying "yes" to drains on your resources (time, cash, physical and emotional energy).
So if you manage to get what you want, it will suck terribly. So terribly that you will wish you had not received it. You will grow resentful (of everyone and everything). Every issue that comes up will overwhelm you to pieces. You will start to feel as if you're losing your mind, body and spirit.
I recently had to do some major detachment around our upcoming move to Oakland. (I've been jamming about it on my podcasts.)
I want this move badly.
So badly... that I could intuitively see the situation going badly.
Badly because... I started saying "yes" to stuff I would never in my right mind say "yes" to.
When you say "yes" to something you don't want because you feel it is the only way to get what you do want, you've just created a big pot of steaming, soon-to-boil- over disaster. And you will inevitably get burned.
So I had to check myself by exercising detachment. And just like that, I was back on track. Feeling good. Seeing good. Hearing good. Knowing that all is good.
Here is My Super Simple Trick for Detaching
1. Ask yourself: Why the f*ck do I even want this? Use a f-bomb because it triggers something dark within you. Through the darkness you will find the light.
2. Then ask yourself: What's the game plan if I don't get what I want? In other words: Are there any other ways I can experience the feelings behind my desire? The longer you make your list, the better you will feel and the more detached from the outcome you will become. You'll suddenly feel empowered even if what you want doesn't work out. Reaching this place in your consciousness is manifestation gold. Alchemy, really.
Here's the downside of detachment: Detachment is sobering.
The reckless excitement you feel when seeking whatever it is that you want will fade. This shift can be a downer if you've been using reckless excitement to keep you motivated and moving forward.
That is because reckless excitement is intoxicating. It keeps you high above reality. When you're not living in your reality, you will inevitably start to destroy the good in your life.
Here's the upside of sobering up/detaching:
1. You will take action from a place of mindful excitement.
2. You will get what you want.
3. It will come to you easier than you ever imagined.
4. And here's the best part: You will really, really love what you receive.
PS: I'll be teaching detachment in the upcoming Group Intuitive Coaching Program. Detachment will help you more fully enjoy every moment of your life. Sign-up and I'll show you...