easy on yourself. The goal of this exercise is to uncover anything that may be subconsciously keeping you from attracting a loving, lasting partner. As I said yesterday, your life does not have to be perfect. We are all a work and progress. The goal is for you to feel good. In answering these questions, avoid comparing yourself to others. Most importantly, these answers should be your
own, not someone else’s opinion of you. Have fun with this exercise. Have a glass of wine or cup of tea, play some uplifting music and write your little heart out.
Do I have my life in order?
Am I content with the current circumstances of my life?
Can I realistically afford to date? (Dating doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, but it does require that you have some financial resources. Also, in these current economic times, do not expect your partner to cover all the cost.)
If not, what can I do to increase my money supply so I can start dating?
Do I have a consistent source of income?
Is my checking account in good shape?
Are my bills current?
If not, what is my plan for bringing them current?
Do I have some savings? (Dating is an extra expense, so it helps to have a cushion.)
If not, how can I start saving today? (Even just coins in a jar count. The Universe responds to our every effort.)
Do I enjoy my job?
If not, do I have a long term plan for finding a job I enjoy?
Am I where I want to be professionally?
Am I progressing in my career?
What 2 steps can I take to improve my career?
How do I manage stress?
Do I have time to start a new relationship?
What am I passionate about?
What do I do when I’m not working or sleeping?
How’s my credit?
If your credit needs improvement, do you have a plan for improving it? (Even just doing some research on personal finance is a step in the right direction.)
Am I caring for my body?
What areas can I improve caring for my body? (Example: eating more fruits and vegetables every day or adding an hour of exercise a week.)
Do I feel good in my body?
Am I happy with my physical appearance?
What can I do to improve my physical appearance?
What is my primary source of transportation?
Is my transportation reliable? Am I able to go to and from easily?
Are there any changes I can make to improve my transportation?
Do I like where I live?
Can I improve my living situation?
Is my home ready to entertain?
Is there any clutter in my home, closets, car or refrigerator? (the great spiritual teacher, Louise Hay teaches that people with cluttered closets and refrigerators, have clutter minds.)
Based on your responses above, make a plan to improve your foundation. Initially, taking just one step can dramatically shift the energy in your life. Clean out your living space, balance you checkbook or buy a new outfit. Please commit to doing whatever it takes to make you feel better about your foundation.
The results will be so worth it!
PS- If you find that you need a little intuitive coaching throughout this process, I am offering my blog readers one 30-minute phone session with me for $30.00.