Your anxiety will not be transformed, but instead transferred to your new circumstances. Fulfillment will be fleeting and there will be no victory lap.
You'll know if you are using fear to motivate your choices and goals if your reasons for doing what you're doing is a long list of "I don't want to..." or "I don't want feel...".
While the power of the "I don't want" can be the start of a brilliant transformation, it is not strong enough to be sustaining.
The minute you hit an obstacle in your pursuits (and I promise you, you will) you will feel lost, directionless and overwhelmed.
You'll stress out over the little things because there is no joyful, soul-inspired motivation to keep you on track.
Or your reasoning is so insecure that you can't trust it, so you seek outside guidance to influence your feelings (sadly, this is when people start abusing psychic hotlines and oracle cards).
The key is to be able to clearly and concisely answer these questions with the most positive and life-affirming language: What do I want? Why do I want it? What do I want to do? Why do I want to do it?
And pursue the answers to these questions with integrity, fierce dedication and a heaping dose of self-compassion.
You may need to start here: What am I afraid of? What is the worst case scenario?"
When you observe your fear from a place of curiosity, it will have less power over you. Relief will show up.
Oh and be mindful of comparison. Are you comparing yourself to someone else? "They did it... and seem happy. I'll go for it too."
Using someone's success story as motivation can be really powerful, but more often than not it is used as an excuse for not dealing with your own fear.
What's really underneath this type of motivation is: "I'm scared. They seem to not be scared. I'll do what they're doing."
The problem with this type of reasoning is you will most likely pursue your goal in way that will only make your fear worse because you're not dealing with the root cause(s) of your struggle.
Psychically, when I tune in to a person's fear-based motivations this is the way they read:
Unstable, erratic & unsafe- I'll physically start to feel dizzy and nauseous (psychic feeling).
Staccato & unharmonious- Like nails on a chalkboard (psychic hearing).
Fuzzy, disjointed & mismatched- The vision is like a cluttered room (psychic sight).
Yes, I can win a gold medal at the Intuition Games. However, everyone has intuitive abilities.
If your motivation is fear-based chances are someone in your life is intuitively picking up on it.
Pay attention to how others are responding to you because it can be the sign you need to get back on track. Are others cheering you on or trying to redirect you?
(Note: When you're in fear, others will connect to their own fear and since most people aren't a good little psychic, they may give you guidance that makes you feel defensive. Oy vey!)
Here's my Intuitive Coaching Advice:
Figure out the source of your misery before you do anything!
Get crystal clear about what is not working in your life before you: pay for it, quit, break-up, sign on the dotted line, burn bridges, hit send, give someone a piece of your mind...
Once you know what's not working, then you can focus on what you really, really want.
And here's the realness: Figuring out what we really, really want is the most arduous leg of your transformation journey.
It requires deep self-inquiry and soulful examination of your motives. You have to stop, sit down, feel your feelings and breathe so you can return to a place of curiosity, wonder, joy & excitement.
These are the feelings that will get you to where you want to go.
I can help you transform your fear to joy. Schedule an Intuitive Coaching Session today.