The reason I know that a sexual relationship with a “friend” doesn’t work, is because I’ve done it….more times that I can comfortably admit. Each time, I told myself it would be different,
but the end result was always the same. The relationship got messy. Feelings were hurt. A friendship was ruined.
Entering into any sexual relationship outside the context of romantic partnership or monogamy is a set up for heartbreak. It is my belief that there are only three types of relationships
outside of our original family: professional, friendship and romantic partnership. Within
each type of relationship there are very different expectations and guidelines. These“rules” are what keep each type of relationship on track. In a “friends with benefits” relationship there are no rules of engagement.
Inevitably, one person will form an emotional connection that will not be reciprocated and tension will ensue. Regardless of the circumstances, the end result will always be the demise of the friendship. Both parties lose.
More importantly, I believe this type of arrangement becomes a smoke screen for what each person doesn’t want to admit to themselves: “On some level, I believe I’m not worthy of a lasting, loving romantic partnership”.
Be a winner in love. Stop distracting yourself with faux relationships. Do the necessary spiritual, emotional and physical work to attract a real, lasting, loving romantic partner into your
I promise you, it is so worth the effort!